Be Gracious

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This time last year I was pregnant with this beautiful miracle baby but keeping it a secret until I hit that 20 weeks gestation mark.

Part of me still needed time to realize that this baby was truly growing inside of me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

And part of me was still trying to find the right words...an explanation??...to announce Ethan and I were expecting.

Guys...we met online in January 2017, had our first date in March 2017, found out we were pregnant in May 2017, and celebrated our one year anniversary of dating while taking care of our 3 month old daughter this past March. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I found out I was pregnant with the nexplanon in my arm. Long story short I was pregnant when I got the nexplanon in but wasn’t pregnant enough for my urine to be positive prior to insertion.  I was for sure the talk of my OB’s office for weeks! 

A day doesn’t go by that I don’t think about the day I went in to confirm I was pregnant and we thought about not keeping her.  It makes me feel sad, ashamed, sick to think that the thought was even in our minds because just look at her....she’s such a blessing, a miracle. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

She has taught me so much. The truth about nipple pain, childbirth + sleepless nights.

I realize that I’m not the first or the last mom to go through the hard days.  This has taught me to be gracious when I don’t make it home in time for bedtime or forget to make a batch of baby food for daycare.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I also realize I’m not the only person who’s had an unexpected pregnancy nor will I be the last.  And I’d like to think Ethan and I are freaking rocking this thing called parenting. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

We learn new things about each other every day. And although I’m not as clean as he’d like me to be + he’s not as affectionate as I’d like him to be (love you babe ) it’s OK!

Being gracious as a mom, a partner, a business owner, a nurse, a lactation consultant...it’s not easy but so important.  We can’t do it all perfectly but all we can do is try. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

So here’s to being gracious, forgiving, + faithful in everything you do. Lean on your village for support because we can’t do it alone.

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Knowledge Is Power

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Lately, there has been a lot of things in life that has really made me think about how we use our voices and our knowledge in life.

I read an article the other day about how “we” as health care providers AND women look at childbirth with fear.

Fear of the pain

Fear of injury or worse to mom and/or baby

Fear of medical intervention

Fear of no medical intervention

Fear of getting sued

Fear of speaking up

I was so grateful that when I gave birth to my Everly that I spoke up, I advocated, I cried, I stood firm in my wants and needs.  I wanted to give my body, my temple, a chance to labor and birth this baby without anyone numbing me or enhancing my contractions.  I was one of the 10% that my labor started at home and my water broke as I stepped out of the shower. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

So no Miss Resident Physician you will not start pitocin just four hours into my labor so I deliver on your shift.

I ended up with pitocin 13 hours after my water broke “because things weren’t moving fast enough” but fast enough for who?  I said yes out of exhaustion and insecurity and fear...I made it through without an epidural and with a happy, healthy baby.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I remember hearing my nurse nonchalantly say “who knows if the Pitocin really did anything...you were already progressing fine” 

I just think about the moms who don’t have the knowledge, education, power, confidence, energy to advocate and fight for what they want.  Those who just do what their told.  Those who are of a minority population who don’t have access to quality health care.  Those who don’t speak English and just nod yes to everything their nurse or physician says but don’t truly understand.  Those who want to breastfeed but end up supplementing because they don’t have the support or resources to succeed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I’m sure there are many of you who have opinions, thoughts, experiences on both sides of the coin.  What are some of your fears?  How have you used your knowledge as power?

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Introduction <3

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Hi there!

My name is Beckie!  I’m the proud momma to Everly and loving girlfriend to Ethan!⠀

I’m a registered nurse and IBCLC in Philadelphia where I work as a Maternal-Child Nurse and at a suburban hospital as a Lactation Consultant!  In August I transitioned to work as a nurse on a mother-baby unit to gain experience before starting graduate school to become a Nurse-Midwife and Women’s Health NP this coming January.  In my “spare time” I run a private practice lactation consulting business supporting Philadelphia area parents to reach their breastfeeding and lactation goals. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

It’s been quite the wild ride to get to where my family and I are today but I wouldn’t change any moment because our story is what truly makes it so special. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I’m so excited to take you along on this journey with me.  My instagram @bestfeeding_lc as well as this blog page will be a safe space where I will share stories, experiences, advice, learning opportunities (for both me + you), and the truth about how hard but rewarding life as a mom, military girlfriend, and health care professional can be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Let’s laugh, cry, celebrate, smile, struggle, heal, dream, and achieve our goals together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I can’t.freaking.wait. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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Welcome to BestFeeding Lactation & Feeding Consultation

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Welcome to BestFeeding Lactation & Feeding Consultation

First of all, thank you so much for visiting my website and checking out this blog page.  It has been a vision of mine for over two years now to start my own lactation and feeding consultation business and the time has finally come!  BestFeeding Lactation & Feeding Consultation is a registered Limited Liability Company (LLC) in the state of Pennsylvania and depending on how successful this becomes, I will begin to serve communities outside of PA in the surrounding areas in the future.  I will primarily offer home visits to those in need and over time, hope to begin holding community events and a support group in the future.

As mentioned in the "Welcome" section, my name is Beckie Walker (Rebecca A. Walker for professional purposes) and I am the founder and owner of BestFeeding!  I am currently a nurse at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia in West Philadelphia and a lactation consultant at Lankenau Medical Center on the Main Line in Wynnewood, PA.  I am a graduate of Drexel University where I completed my Bachelor's of Science in Nursing, a minor in Addictions Counseling, and a concentration in Human Lactation & Breastfeeding.  In 2015, i completed these programs and obtained my Registered Nurse licensure as well as my International Board Certified Lactation Consultation Certification.

My hope, as a lactation consultant and owner of my own business, is to being a support system and inspiration to mothers (and fathers!) who are in need of assistance with breastfeeding, lactation, and/or feeding their child(ren).  My nursing background in addition to a career as a lactation consultant has allowed me and will continue to allow me to offer perspective into successful feeding, growing, and development in a child.  As a practitioner, working with a multidisciplinary team (doctors, nurse practitioners, nurses, speech pathologists, dietitians, etc.) is a top priority and will occur as needed with my work as an IBCLC.  I am extremely passionate about working with mothers and babies whether they are newborns and in need of initial assistance or a feeder and grower who's on a nursing strike, for example.  

Please stay tuned for blog posts from myself, guest writers including medical practitioners, parents, and community members who can offer additional resources in conjunction with BestFeeding.  I am so grateful for your support and welcome you to the BestFeeding community!

Xoxo,
Beckie 

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